With this first week of 2011 flying by, I’ve recently starting thinking about expectations. One of the definitions of expectation is “ the degree of probability that that something will occur.” When I was a child, anticipation of birthdays, holidays, and of course summer vacation were expectations that I lived for. How exciting it was to plan for events that seemed so far off, yet so rewarding when they got here. As a mom, I relive some of those expectations through my children, who are always looking at things with an open mind. But now, as an adult, I wonder are expectations good or bad?
The idea of hoping for something wonderful to occur or looking forward to something happening is good in my book. Setting goals is something we all should do and doing so with an open mind and a little bit of optimism is most likely a positive in many people’s books.
Perhaps the issue of expectations is where we set the bar. Or maybe it’s in understanding what is really important and what’s not so important. Take for example the holidays. The sky was the limit when I was a child. Today sometimes we expect the holidays to be so picture-perfect that when they come and go, many of these expectations (or maybe they should be called pipe-dreams) are not met. Good or bad?
Perhaps with the start of the New Year, instead of expectations for what this year may hold, a thorough look at what’s really crucial to you and what’s not might be better. Then you can come up with a plan on how to achieve these things.
What are your thoughts about expectations? Do you think they are a positive or negative thing? Was there a time when expectations about a good thing to come pulled you through a difficult time? Or, on the other side, a time when your expectations led to disappointment, or even trouble? Share your experiences below!